Today is international divorce day. The first Monday in the new year. According to statistics, the busiest day for divorce lawyers. Many people are filing for divorce or considering separation. It makes sense, the stress of the holidays is now over, new years resolutions are made and people are beginning to look at their finances and pondering what they want to change for a new year. You look back on your life over the past year and start wondering. Interesting that many people tend to look back on a year and find more negative moments and forget about the wonderful times. For some it may have been a very hard year and maybe there were more down times than fun times, so thinking of divorce at this time of year would be warranted.
I have looked at many postings for this day and many say “Happy Divorce Day”. How odd. HAPPY divorce day. Have these people ever gone through a divorce? There is not much that is happy about it. This is apparently the day that most people visit their lawyers and seek a divorce. I can say with much confidence that even in the best scenario, this is not a happy day. However, for some, it is also not the worst day either. This is the change that they need to get their lives back on track to happiness. So it is not a day to be celebrated as happy or sad, I think it should be a day for all people in relationships, good or bad, as a time of reflection. For those who have been struggling and divorce is the better way to go, it is a good time of year to start fresh and make the positive changes needed to get you both to a place of happiness, but apart. For those who are in happy marriages and relationships where divorce is not on the radar this day can be a time to look at each other and things you can improve upon as well as things you can do to continue to build and grow your relationship. For everyone, look at what worked and what didn’t and make those changes to keep you going in this new year whether they are together or apart.
Even though the premise of this day was created on the sadness and hardship of couples and families, let the word Divorce on International Divorce Day be looked at as a day of reflection and a day of change. Whether you are in a good relationship or one that is ending, it can be a day that will move you forward but for the better either way. So in that case Happy Divorce Day everyone.