We all take time to plan our weddings, to plan for marriage and plan for children. We give ourselves all the time in the world to plan for these things. One thing we don’t give ourselves time for is to plan our a divorce when that happens. We often panic and rush to the first lawyer we know or are referred to without even taking a breath to figure out what just happened or clear our head. If you are in this situation where you are now beginning the process of divorce, your mind probably has a million things running through it and you don’t know where to start. It takes time to make clear and good decisions when your life is a mess so it’s important to give yourself the time to slow down and clear your head before you jump in to making big life changing decisions. Think about how long it took you to plan your wedding, probably a year or more. Think about how long and how many conversations you had with your partner to plan a life together, many I’m sure. It took a long time, many conversations and a lot of planning to get married and plan your life so why would you not give yourself some time to think and talk and plan your life during and after a divorce. You need to make big decisions, possibly the biggest decision of your life, both emotionally and financially because now you possibly have others to think about as well…children. The stakes are much higher when you decide to divorce as there are others to think about now as well. You want to be able to make clear and good decisions for you and them so take your time, talk with people and figure your life out. You don’t need to jump into a legal process you know nothing about. Think about what you want after divorce and what you want your life to look like. Assess your finances and what you need to move forward. Have a plan, just like you did when you got married. Take care of yourself first and you will be able to provide your best self when going through a divorce.
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