Over the course of the month of May I have read many articles, stories, watched videos and talks, all things to do with motherhood. The one thing that has been a recurring factor that gives someone the label of mom, is the desire to be one. Whether you are a biological mother, an adopted mother (either legally or by circumstance), a grandmother, a step-mother and even a furry baby mother, the act of loving and caring and nurturing that baby, child or even teenager or young adult happens when you have the desire to be a mother. The desire to teach them about life and love; the desire to comfort them when they are low; the desire to guide and support them through life’s ups and downs; the desire to be a motivator when they need a boost; the desire to be a friend when they have none; the desire to love them because they deserve it.
There are many reasons why someone becomes a mom or is labelled a mom, more than I can write but if they have a desire to care then they are a mom. No one person raises a child totally alone the human race doesn’t allow for that. There is always someone around that you draw from to get you through the days of mothering you just have to be open to see them. The woman in line at the grocery store who gave you some unsolicited advice about soothers or a best friend who offered to babysit so you can have a day off, or another mother at your child’s school who talks about the madness at her home or your own mom who is telling you how to do things, all of these women have contributed to your mothering because they cared to say and do something, they had the desire to help and nurture. Everything you hear them say and see them do you are learning and your mind is absorbing it all on some level, all of these women have contributed to the mothering you do and has therefore impacted your child.
Raising a child is no easy task. It doesn’t take just one mom to raise a child it takes many. It takes all of the women around you who are in your life to raise your child. Look around and see who is there, thank them for how they have contributed to raising your child, the good things you have learned from them and even the bad things you want to forget, yes even the lady who gave unsolicited advice, thank her too because they all had that desire to help that desire to participate in raising your child because you don’t do it alone, you all do it together and together you are all moms.